Happy New Year, Everyone!
I hope this post finds you looking forward to the year ahead, and to whatever it is that will make you feel fulfilled and happy amongst all the change and chaos in the world.
"You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” - C.S. Lewis
I know not everyone is a fan of the “new year, new me” mentality, and I don’t entirely feel as though I feed into that either, but what I do believe is that a fresh start feels good, even if it is the same us, and that the start of a new year gives us all opportunity to reflect on what we went through, did, and even more so, who we were in the previous year.
At the turn of each year I like to sit with a notebook/planner and pen, a hot drink, a lit candle, and really just sit with myself and my thoughts to gather together some goals and aspirations for the year ahead. I think of it like I think of wearing makeup; I’m not necessarily hiding who I am, or faking it, I am only truly looking to enhance the best parts of myself and project that outward toward those I encounter in life. I think that it is healthy to want to accomplish new things, grow in certain areas, or get back on track when it comes to something you feel strongly about doing; reading a certain amount of books, getting to the gym more often, nourishing your body with better foods, spending more quality time with family or your partner... the list can go on!
These sessions of self reflection (even after that first day of the new year) tend to keep me going throughout the year when things come at me that I may not be overly prepared for; change has always been hard for me, but I find that I am better able to tolerate it and embrace it when I work to understand myself and my reactions, as well as keeping those goals I set at the forefront of my mind. There is always something to be grateful for, even if that thing doesn’t always stand at attention.
Below are a list of affirmations that I will sit with and read each morning of 2021, to remind myself of the good in this world, and when that seems to be lacking, the good in myself. I hope that these will serve as inspiration for you, and will prompt you to create your own list of mantras or affirmations. Remember, sometimes the only person we have left to convince of our worth and our power is ourselves. Words and language in general are powerful tools, and I believe things like these small lists can help on the “bad” days.
I am enough.
I am in charge of how I feel.
I let go of the things that no longer serve me.
My presence is my power.
I’m allowed to take the time to heal.
I am allowed to make mistakes.
I am open to new adventures.
I make time to tap into my creative spaces.
Negative thoughts only have the power I allow them.
I will treat my body as a temple.
I am one with nature.
My weight does not equal my worth.
Happiness is a result of personal effort.
I trust myself.
I am always learning valuable lessons.
All that is meant to be will find its way to me.
I will allow myself grace.
I want to emphasize the meaning behind this last one, because it is the one out of all of them that I am most focused on making a truth for me in my life. I feel as though in the last few years, and even through my college years, I haven’t allowed myself grace in my moments of sadness, feeling overwhelmed or disappointed, or even tired or angry. I held myself to a certain standard and was disappointed when I couldn’t “have it all together.”
Why wasn’t I okay with letting myself truly feel those emotions in those moments?
This year I am vowing to myself that I will allow moments of imperfection. I will allow myself to head to bed early, to leave dishes in the sink at night, to forget to set the coffee for the next morning, to not make the bed, to skip a day of exercise, or to eat the brownie. I will understand that forming a routine and having discipline takes time, and that not everything will come naturally or easily to me, and that is OKAY.
If that resonates with you, I hope you allow yourself more grace this year.
"I am the greatest. I said that even before I knew I was.” - Muhammad Ali
I hope you all find the time (if you haven’t already) to sit and take a few moments for yourself in the coming weeks, and to think about what you want for yourself and your family in 2021. It can be a formal sit down and write-it-all-down session, or just some thoughts you take time to have in the shower. I will be sharing some of my 2021 goals with you all shortly, in hopes that both getting it out here as well as in my journal will hold me more accountable and at the same time offer you all some inspiration if you’re finding it tricky to find a starting point!
Until next time, be kind to yourself mentally, spiritually and physically!